Are women ever happy? Can you really make a woman happy? These are questions that I am seriously pondering. I’m confused, I need some help here.
This is my impression from years of consideration. Women don’t want to be happy. They would rather over think every little thing. Am I wrong? If they have brown eye’s they wish for blue, curly hair they want straight. Women with large breasts complain that they are too large, women with small ones wish they were bigger. Too fat, too thin, too, too, too, there is always a too.
So we give them the attention we think they want, and we are smothering them. We give them less attention, and we are ignoring them. We try and find a balance between the two and we become just a friend. Once again I ask: how can you please a creature that prefers unhappiness and dwells most comfortably in the realm of self doubt?
I have come to believe that the men who act like jerks are favored by the opposite sex because women can believe most readily that they are not good enough. Any man that can make a woman feel like she is not good enough for him will always be surrounded by the beauties of this world. Treat her any other way and she sees you as a liar. How could anyone find her beautiful? How could anyone think her sexy? The mere fact that you claim she is wonderful proves you to be a liar of the highest degree. Am I wrong? I used to think so but now I question it.
I don’t think I will ever have the ability to pull off the act of absolute A**hole, but I have come to believe that it would certainly benefit my love life if I could. If there are any women out there who read this, please enlighten us. Prove me wrong, or at least explain this odd behavior to me. Because either I am right on the money and sad because of the truth, or way off the mark and once again confused by these strange and beautiful creatures that I cannot understand.
I am not a women, I’m not emotional enough.
Not that emotion is bad, it’s just that it can be ones undoing.
For the most part men lack it, and women have an over abundance.
That is why men and women can never truly see eye to eye.
Therefore there has to be a large degree of trust, that the other person is sincere.
If you try to understand a woman, it will just lead to failure.
But if you do your best and she is willing to accept this, there will be happiness.
Also there are some GIRLS that never really grow up because they are taken care of most of there life by an overly providing father…this I have seen on numerous occasions and they will never be happy with anyone but there daddy.
Now when you talk about women going for the A** Hole, this too I have seen. I believe we both have seen it. The type that go for the A** Hole are ones that are not ready for a adult relationship.
Women will stay with them no matter what they do. Even promise marriage and never give her a ring. I believe the saying is “Why buy the cow if you can get the milk for freeâ€. I know it’s a terrible saying.
Women can be uncertain, but also men. It is human nature. Leaps of faith don’t come easy for either sex.
Women are wonderful, exciting and even Joyfull.
But it can never be Perfect because we are not perfect.
It’s not Brokeback Mountain time YET!
Well I am a woman. I’ve analyzed this issue time and time again in my head and have discussed it with friends both male and female. My consclusion is that some women don’t give themselves the opportunity to be happy because it’s never a permanent state of mind. The fact that every being has expectations as to what their mate must be like is a given that socialization is prevalent in our society. I’ll tell you this, we as women
are raised to believe that someday we will find “the one”…our “prince charming”. That is nothing but a crock of s#!t I tell you. In all
honesty there is no prince charming. That is only true in fairy tales and that is why they are called that…cause they don’t exist. If we
as women could just realize this, we could truly embark on the voyage of finding true happiness. I for one have decided to stop dreaming, every
individual is beautiful and has qualities that make a person worthy of being loved. Women in general are unhappy because they have this long list
of expectations that will never be met. If you listen to girls and their advice…it’s like…oh, you deserve better, and you are so much better than that…C’mon let’s be realistic…if women were to just loosen up a bit, give a guy an opportunity to share his inner being…there would be so much happiness in relationships that we wouldn’t need all this marriage counseling stuff. My advice…clear your slate…be yourself…and give someone the opportunity to compliment you are. Don’t expect him to be perfect…perfection is in the mind of the beholder. Create your own perfection, tweak things a little and you will learn that the roller coaster not only goes down….but up a whole heck of a lot of times too.
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That was a great response. Thank you for taking the time.
I’m not a very good writer, but Im going to try this anyway. My writing will probably jump from thought to thought and have no real point, but hey i know what im trying to say and thats all that matters so here goes and for the record I’m single and a woman.
I agree soicety has warped us “ALL†and women are a bit more emotional and inscure than men, but does that mean were unhappy, never to be satisified? NO! We just need more than sleep, food and sex to survive and we don’t expect or assume men should think, feel or act the way we do, that ideal is rather absurd if you really think about it. As for the “over thinkingâ€, unlike men who have the ability to completely turn their brains off whenever they want, women CAN’T, we have constant thoughts running through our heads, that’s just the way were wired. This is why we like to drink, no joke, not only do our “self doubts†fade but we can focus better, and by the way none of this is scientifcally proven, it is just a theory of mine. In closing I’ll say “happiness and love†ain’t never going to be perfect, I’m a work in progress and maybe, just maybe there’s a man out there strong enough to except who I am and see I’m worth the challenge. Vernon, I hope the same is true for you – except the man part of course.
Heh heh, I only half agree with your comments. From what I have seen the problem is not that women want a man to think or feel just as they feel. The problem is that most women seem to have huge lists of what they want their mate to be. I have no real problem with this in theory, but what I can’t figure out is why women are unwilling to bend to the slightest degree when it comes to these fantastical qualities they yurn to discover in another person. The truth is we are all flawed and imperfect, and if you find someone that makes you happy, then you need to not overthink it. If you look at each man under a microscope there will always be a reason to not fall in love with him.
Everything is negtiable when you meet the right person, maybe even fun. You do like fun Vernon, don’t you?
You are just like every woman I have met. You proved it as soon as you said “Everything is negotiable when you meet the right person” you don’t even know what the right person is. The right person goes into the “prince charming†category. I love it when women are concerned with things like the height of the man; I have seen this more then once. They are worried about his height because of how they will look together. Why does that even matter? If women didn’t have lists of things they expect their perfect man to be then height wouldn’t be an issue. When I look at women, I do not have a set idea of what I want, or have to have. I don’t walk around looking for a certain type. I ask myself two simple questions: Is the woman smart and do we have amazing conversations? And of course, am I attracted to her? And I am attracted to different women for different reasons. I like tall, I like short, a little heavier or a little thinner, my attraction is usually based upon the woman. If I can talk to her easily and we become friends I believe everything else works itself out. So don’t give me the “right person” crap. The right person probably doesn’t measure up to your standards. The right person is a figment of the collective female imagination. The right person is probably some skinny guy who you wouldn’t give the time of day to. Check your list, item number 41 says: Broad shouldered tall guy. Next please.
Before I leave, I’d first like to say, you’re so unlike any man I’ve known. Second that hurt, sorry for my comments
Keyword: Man.
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